seething (v) – to be filled with intense but unexpressed anger.
We probably have been let down by our friends at some point in our lives. Maybe it was that friend who said she would be there for you when your grandmother died but never showed up, or maybe it was that friend who avoided you after he became friends with the cool guys. It can be disappointing, heart-breaking and sometimes it even feels like betrayal because we have certain expectations for our friends.
Our friends are like our tribe members. We thrive on their support and depend on them up to a certain extent to function in society. We all need friends. So, it hurts having your trust betrayed by friends or when you realise they do not really care about you. Sometimes we can avoid these painful experiences if we pay close attention to the qualities that distinguish real friends from fake friends.
Have you ever had those friends who pretend to be happy for you but really they are seething with jealousy and you can see it spill out all over in their actions? If you have, maybe it is time to
question who your true friends really are. After all, what is the point of having friends who hurt you instead of being there for you? True friends are not just people you do fun activities with or talk to. They are people who will be there for you when you need them. Many times we do not realise who our true friends are until we go through a tough time. In the face of adversity, true friends will support and help you while the rest will disappear. A true friend is a shoulder to cry on, a comforting hug and a non-judgmental listening ear. Actions speak louder than words, so a good way of finding out who your true friends are is to see if their actions show that they care about you. People say a lot of sweet things but their actions do not always match their words.
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